DATING IN 2017 IS A JOKE


If you are in a relationship then you probably don't realise just how easy you have it. For all my single ladies (and gents!) I think we can all agree the absolute shit fest that is dating in 2017. I for one, have had enough of trying to find a man and if I'm honest I think it would be easier and less painful to have a vital organ removed than to find myself a guy!
Ever heard the phrase "You gotta laugh or you'll cry" well I feel like this phrase could be applied to my "dating" life. I use the term dating in the loosest meaning of the word because the most male interaction I've had is when someone has accidentally bumped into me. I wish I was joking. I mean it could just be me! However, I have spent numerous hours talking to friends and peeps on Twitter about the dating struggles we have been facing, problems that didn't exist 5, 10, 15 years ago. Taking all of this into consideration I have come to the conclusion that the internet has destroyed dating. More specifically, Tinder has killed dating.


Physically going somewhere in the hopes of meeting someone has become a thing of the past. I feel like dating is solely done online now, with Tinder being the most popular dating app, particularly for us younger peeps. I feel like I'm a veteran Tinder user by this point and honestly- I fucking hate the stupid thing! I am yet to have encountered any decent person on Tinder and I'm beginning to doubt I ever will. There are two main reasons why I hate Tinder and why I feel like this app and online dating in general has killed the dating game. I feel like Tinder has given way for a rise in men using this solely as a way to find a cheap and easy hook up, which is 100% okay, if that's what you want! But when I receive messages that simply say 'spit or swallow' I kinda start to question whether I should just burn my phone! Tinder has become a really easy way for people to find others to just have casual sex with and that's absolutely fine... unless you're not okay with that. Being on Tinder when it seems everyone you match with just wants to have a one night stand, when that's not something you're cool with is challenging! I just want to get this out there, I'm not a prude. I'm just not into meeting random men for one night stands. That's my personal choice. I'd rather meet for a drink or get to know the person before I jump into bed with them. I feel like Tinder has made way for casual sex to become more popular than dating and when that's kinda what you're looking for it can be a bit of a losing battle.

This then brings me onto the second and biggest problem I have found with online dating. WHY DO THE MEN I TALK TO CONTINUOUSLY TALK TO ME AND THEN BLOCK/GHOST ME WITH NO WARNING?!?! Honestly, I feel like this is one of life's biggest unanswered questions and if any of you have any idea, then please let me know because I have no idea. This has recently happened to me for the fourth time and I'm slowly loosing the will to live. The issue is because you don't have to see this person in real life, it makes it so easy to just block someone and never talk to them again but this just brings a whole host of shit! I'm not gonna lie I've cried every single time this has happened and it's probably causing more harm with my ever increasing trust issues. I've been stood up three times, all by men I've started talking to on Tinder. The thing about being stood up/ un matched/ blocked is that you just don't have any closure, there are so many questions especially if you thought things were going well! It's soul destroying and I definitely have huge trust and commitment issues as a result of it! It fucking sucks, it makes you question everything about yourself and see yourself as the problem and it's all because internet dating makes it so easy for people to be cowards and not have to explain or deal with what's going on.


I can't see my dating life getting much worse and I would love nothing more than to sack it all in, buy a dozen dogs and settle down for a lonely life. But at the same time, I'm a hopeless romantic and all I want is for someone to love me and for someone to love, so you see my dilemma. I guess I'm going to have to stick it out with online dating and fucking Tinder. Just to recap dating is shit and if you're in a relationship you best hold onto them tight because trust me the grass definitely is not greener on the other side!

Please tell me I'm not alone in this?! What are your thoughts on dating in 2017?

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10 comments :

  1. Love this post you spoke my exact feelings!! People in a relationship are lucky and just don't get it, it's so hard, and as for tinder I HATE IT TOO! I'm sure most guys are on there just for one thing too.. the starters of their convo says it all, urgh. I've been single ages now and i'm tired of hearing the line "it'll come when the time is right" !!! And why do guys block and ghost with no reason? This guy I was seeing for a bit randomly did that to me a few weeks ago, where is the respect lol i feel you gal lol x

    S x
    SHELISES WORLD

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  2. I love this post because of how brutally honest you are about your feelings! I haven't been single in three years and honestly I'd dread dating in the modern world now x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

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  3. Praise you for being so honest in this post! We can only imagine how the dating world would be like now but we can't really say much, our relationship formed very oddly to being with anyway haha

    Jessica & James | www.foodandbaker.co.uk / www.foodandbakertravels.co.uk

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  4. LOVED reading this post as you are so honest and everything is spot on. I'm single and honestly just can't be bothered with dating right now haha

    Samantha | https://believeinamiracle.co.uk

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  5. Awww girl the world of tinder sounds awful!! Thankfully I've been with my pain in the butt bf for over 2 years now lol but I really don't know how you do it with tinder! I've never used a dating app before but they sound like a lot of work for guys to just be dicks!
    Don't worry girl, when you're least looking for love it'll find you! I have confidence you'll find your perfect someone!
    PaleGirlRambling xo

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  6. I completely agree with you! I have never personally got myself Tinder due to the fact that 90% of people don't seem to actually take it seriously. I am up for finding someone a less "millennial" way haha - and you will find someone hun, when you stop looking you will probably find him and he will be perfect x
    Claire | clairesyear.com

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  7. I can totally relate to this. I don't even want to go near tinder, I've heard nothing but bad stories about it!

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  8. I'm recently single and I'm dreading having to try dating. The last time I was single and actually looking for a guy I was in university so it was so easy for me to meet guys. Now, I'm having to turn to online dating which scares the crap out of me. I've been using both tinder and bumble and so far I've yet to even have a conversation with anybody.

    Lauren | Lauren the Daydreamer

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  9. Yas, has preach it! I felt this way too! Sorry, I have a bf now.....but that didn't happen till I left the damn country to China. Met another lonely expat and here we are together. So my advice to you guys is screw this online dating shit, and go abroad. Most people are single, and well if you're a teacher the circle is small, so you're gonna find someone!

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  10. So many people feel the same about this!

    Kathleen / madeinthe1990s.co.uk

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