20 June 2018

THE SINGLE ONE


Is it just me or does everyone seem to be getting in a relationship, whilst you can't even get your own animal to love you?! I have always been the single one of any and every friendship group and if you are also in a similar situation, you will feel my pain of always being the single one.


Being the single one of the group definitely has its pros and cons, however, I'm starting to see more cons with this if I'm honest and I feel like some of these issues need to be addressed. As the single member of a friendship group, if I do not ask for relationship advice please don't give me any. Don't try to make me feel any better about the fact that I am the only person in the group that is still single. It doesn't help. I don't want to hear your cliched "you're still so young" or ''you'll find the one soon" and I sure as hell don't want to hear "I'm so jealous, I wish I was single" oh, oh really?! You wanna swap lives for a week Karen (sidenote: I actually don't know anyone called Karen). The thing about being the only single one in your friendship group is having to listen to them all talk about their boyfriends or even worse... being the third wheel at every occasion. Nothing makes you feel more single than usual than being surrounded by a bunch of stupidly happy couples... help me.


Being single means you are selected for certain types of activities. I am the person my friends all come to for a night out, I'm their go to drinking buddy. The thing about being single is like it's almost an unspoken rule that you can't turn down any opportunity to go for a drink. If you're single, you'll know what I mean - it's almost like they see it as you have no excuses to not go - theres drinking involved, you might meet a man and you have nothing else to do... which is all very much true but that is not the point here! At the end of the night, when you're drunk you can ring up your significant other, get them to pick you up with a box of 20 nuggets and go home with them holding your hair whilst you vom, what do I get? An overpriced taxi home and to cuddle the pregnancy pillow I brought because yes, I am that lonely. Do. Not. Judge. Me. I love a good night out don't get me wrong but sometimes I would like to be considered for afternoon tea or visiting an art gallery... for nothing more than to give my liver a rest!


I don't have a problem with being single (haha you keep telling yourself that Robyn). It's just being the only single one has it's series of problems, mainly that everyone else keeps making it a problem. I know they don't mean it but constantly asking me what happened to that boy you were talking to (he pied me of Karen, thanks for the reminder) or giving me pathetic attempts at trying to make me feel better about the fact that no man loves me is not fun. I am single but I don't want to be the single friend. I think the worst part is that your friends just don't understand what it's like to be single. The minute someone gets into a relationship they forget everything about being single and it can kinda suck to be the only one, it makes you feel even lonelier than you already are. You almost become a source of entertainment as a result of all your dating fails and self deprecating sense of humour... or maybe that last one is the reason I'm single..?



If there is one piece of advice I could give to girls in relationships who have single friends - don't make it an issue! There is nothing worse than being constantly reminded of your single hood. Most of us are actually single by choice and aren't too bothered until you make it a constant reminder, like its a bad thing. I mean the only real difference is I don't have to share my food and get my bed all to myself so who's the real winner here anyway?!

Till next time,
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