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6 February 2019

TAKING A STEP BACK AND SAYING NO


All of us are guilty of taking on too much. Whether it be favours from friends or responsibilities at work. It almost seems like we have this fear of saying no, of it coming across like we can't handle or do what is being asked of us but when do we say no? When do we step back, take a look at all the extras we are doing and really think about how this impacting our lives and whether we have taken on too much?
This is something I have been going through recently and something I am currently having a little bit of an internal battle over. I've taken on a lot of additional responsibilities at work and part of me now feels like I've taken on way too much. Largely, I was asked whether I wanted to take on bigger roles but I feel like I only said yes because I didn't want to say no. To admit that I couldn't do it. In all honesty, I let my pride make the decision for me. I didn't think about the sheer amount of additional jobs, work and stress this would lead to and I really regret it. As a young professional in a new workplace, you feel the pressure to prove yourself to those around you. To prove that just because you are a young woman doesn't mean you can handle bigger responsibilities but it can take its toll. I have been so stressed and overworked these past few weeks that I haven't been sleeping or eating properly, I feel like I spend all of my time working or worrying about how much work I have to do, my anxiety has been off the scale and I've been suffering with the worst migraines due to stress. I've had to really take a step back and ask myself - is it worth it?

In short, no. The extra responsibility I've taken on through fear of coming across like I'm incapable is not worth it because all I'm doing is putting my own health and happiness at risk. It's making me resent my job and not want to be there. It's making me miserable and more worryingly - ill and the worst part is, I know I'm not the only one in this position. There are so many of us that are taking on more and more at work and not receiving any benefit for it, instead it is just making us ill and miserable. It's time we took a step back, reflect on the position we find ourselves in and work out what is important. I'm very quickly realising that when it comes to work it's not worth sacrificing my health over it. We need to put our own health first - both physically and mentally. It can be hard to remember that it's just a job and that sometimes saying no is not only okay but necessary in order for us to do and be our best self.











Sometimes the hardest thing we can do is speak out and admit to others that we aren't coping as well with the workload as everyone thinks we are. We are only human and can only do so much. It's okay to say no to taking on more than you can handle and it's time it become more acceptable for us to speak out about this without fear of feeling like a failure.

Till next time,
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  1. I totally agree with you on this - no job is worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing over! Keep your chin up chick, you've got this.
    El | Welsh Wanderer

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  2. Hope things get better for you, your health definitely comes first!

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  3. I feel like we are so quick to understand when others are struggling, however, we expect so much more from ourselves. There's some real power in learning the importance of the word 'no' and how to predict our mental, physical and emotional health.

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  4. I totally agree with you on this - we never want to say no because we feel like we're disappointing someone else when really we should be focusing on ourselves!

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