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3 July 2019


Anyone else find themselves putting an insane (and mostly unnecessary) amount of pressure on themselves? I have always been one of those people that have put a lot of pressure on myself in every part of my life. It got to a point where it was really effecting my mental health and putting me in such a negative head space. So, I’ve really been thinking about pressure, priorities and putting my health first to remove the amount of stress I’ve been putting myself under. 

We live in a society that seems to thrive off how much we can achieve and it’s like we are all in competition with each other to do more, be the best in our careers, lead the most exciting life, have the most Instagram likes and generally just an insane amount of pressure to be perfect all of the time. It’s not only tiring and draining but it’s also completely unattainable. I realised I was putting so much unnecessary pressure on myself in so many aspects of my life - at work, with my blog and social media, how I look and how I utilise my time. I was spending so much time trying to cram as much as possible into one day to be the best and put my 100% into everything I do that I was being left with nothing to put into my own mental health and wellbeing. I was on the verge of a burnout everyday, was constantly exhausted and felt like my life was just a never ending to do list. 

It was no fun and definitely not the way I wanted to live. So, I knew something had to change - but what? I had to do a lot of thinking about why I felt a need to put this much pressure on myself and why I got so worked up about always wanting to do better and be better. I have pretty low self-esteem and self-worth, so a huge issue I have always faced is never feeling good enough or always feeling like a failure. This is where all my pressure comes from - this fear of not being good enough or failing, so, I work twice as hard, do twice as much and put twice as much pressure on myself to succeed. I’ve slowly started to work on how I see myself and have surrounded myself by lots of lovely people who help me to see the best in me, instead of the worst. I’ve started to become more rational about things and prioritise what is important. Choosing only two or three priorities in a day and trying not to get so caught up in all the little worries and things that build up to an immense amount of pressure. I’ve started to prioritise time for myself and making sure I have time to just relax, unwind and enjoy my life! I used to get really stressed and worked up about blog posts and sticking to a schedule but now I’m learning that if I don’t post it’s not the end of the world and only post when I have something to share instead of forcing out content. I’ve stopped looking at my stats altogether and I am so much happier and relaxed because of it! 

Dress - Motel Rocks // Boots - Dr Martens // Sunglasses - Specsavers

Removing unnecessary pressure has been a huge leap of progress! I can’t quite believe the effect it has had on my mental health and how much happier I feel now. We tend to have a habit of putting pressure on ourselves, especially when we don’t have to. Sometimes we need to step back and realise we are the master of our own making. We can choose to let pressure consume us or we choose to let go of stress and lead a much more positive, relaxed and all around happier life. I know which one I’m preferring to do! 

Till next time, 

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  1. I can definitely relate. I feel like especially with Instagram, you compare yourself to others and then feel more pressure to be perfect and successful. It is important to not let it consume you and to do things that you enjoy that are relaxing.

    Ami Amour

  2. I relate to this so much - comparison truly is the theif of joy, and for me it's so easy to compare myself to people who don't have chronic illnesses and feel inadequate. Focussing on your own journey is the best way to keep happy and on the right track!
    Kiah | Kiah Tudor


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